No swiping, no apps, no awkward texts. When Miriam Steiner, 93, and Harold Sharlin, 90, went on a blind date, it was an old-fashioned set-up in every possible way.
How it happened
Harold’s granddaughter Jenny met Miriam while waiting tables at a restaurant. She was so taken with Miriam’s pep and vigour that she asked whether she would like to go on a date with her grandfather.
Miriam had not dated since losing her husband in 1999. “I loved him, and I didn’t look for anyone else after that,” she said. “But I said, all right, what have I got to lose?”
Harold, who lost his wife in 1998 and had dated on and off since, called the next day. They agreed to meet for lunch at Politics & Prose, a bookshop and cafe in Washington, DC, and Harold’s favourite hangout.
A date that went viral
A slightly nervous Miriam told the staff at the information desk that she was meeting a date. The smitten staff asked if the pair would pose for a photo, which was shared on Facebook and quickly travelled around the world.
“We spent the whole afternoon together,” said Harold. “It was very pleasant,” added Miriam. Neither was sure where it would lead, but both were glad they had taken the chance.
Why connection matters at every age
Miriam summed it up perfectly: “It’s not easy, making connections as a senior. But we need it.”
She is right. Loneliness and social isolation are linked to poorer physical and mental health, while strong relationships are one of the best predictors of a long, happy life. Love and friendship are not just for the young.
Ways to stay connected as we age
- Say yes to invitations, even when it feels easier to stay home.
- Join a book club, walking group or class.
- Volunteer in your community.
- Let family and friends set you up, as Harold’s granddaughter did.
- Stay open to new people. You never know who you might meet over lunch.
For more on love and connection, explore our Dating and Relationships guide and Healthy Ageing and Longevity guide.
